Written by Pat Bailouni
It's what we know for sure (that just ain't so) that gets us into trouble...
There's an adage about a family at Thanksgiving that goes along the lines of:
A daughter asked her mother why she cuts the turkey in half before cooking it in the oven.
The mother was a little bit startled by the question and said "I'm not sure, that's just what my mother did, so I did the same".
So, the daughter went and asked the Grandmother why she did it?
And the Grandmother gave the exact same answer as the Mother: "I did it just because that's what my Mother did".
So, the daughter went to the Great-Grandmother and asked her why she cut the turkey in half before cooking it.
And her response was: "My oven was too small to put the whole turkey in".
Sometimes we blindly do things because we assume it is the right thing to do - without ever questioning why we do it.
99.99% of the time we are reacting to our environment based on beliefs and programming that we aren't even aware of.
Some beliefs like 'run when a train/ car is about to hit me' may be quite useful in life.
But there may be some deep-seated beliefs we hold about certain people, ourselves, money etc. that may not necessarily be all that useful (or even true) and we continue to live by these beliefs without ever putting them under the microscope.
There are some great questions you can ask yourself to help put your thought processes/ beliefs under the microscope and even uncover some things you weren't even aware of 👇
- What exactly are you labelling good and bad?
- What made you believe that?
- Who made you believe that?
- When did you begin to believe that?
- How did you know to believe that specifically?
- Why do you believe that?
- How does this belief help and hinder you?
- Are there universal (objective) goods and bads?
- If there are, who originated them?
It's food for thought.
MORE ABOUT PAT BAILOUNI
Pat Bailouni is a mindset consultant (trained Demartini Method Ⓡ Facilitator) and a financial market trader. He uses his understanding of human behaviour and psychology to help traders & investors gain an unfair advantage in the markets.