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Pat Bailouni

Buenas noches amigo,

Welcome to my page!

I am a mindset consultant (trained Demartini Method Facilitator), a financial market trader and a self-proclaimed dumpling enthusiast.

I use my understanding of human behaviour and psychology to help traders, poker players, entrepreneurs, athletes and highly motivated individuals identify and sharpen their edge in their respective fields.

I am currently available for 1 on 1 & 1 on many consulting. To discuss my services, please book a free 15-minute discovery call below (or email me here).

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Developing a peak performing mindset.Releasing the chains of stress, fear, anxiety & depression.Gaining courage & confidence.Gaining mental clarity for better decision making.Risk & conflict resolution.Strategic planning & goal setting.Freeing yourself from the burden of grief & loss.Gaining motivation, discipline & focus.Gaining mental clarity for better decision making.Establishing good routines and habits.Clearing strong emotional responses to losing & missing opportunities.Removing FOMO.Gaining confidence in yourself & your strategy/ plan.Dealing with the grief of loss.Dealing with the burden of gain.Clearing self-sabotaging behaviours/ beliefs.Goal setting, building momentum & achieving.Dealing with relationship tensions.Removing 'bad'/ 'unhealthy' habits.Developing 'good'/ 'healthy' habits.

I am currently available for 1 on 1 & group consulting. To discuss my services, please book a free 15-minute discovery call below (or email me here).

The Demartini MethodⓇ.

The Demartini MethodⓇ is used for the purpose of balancing out any subjectively distorted perspectives, unrealistic expectations, imbalanced perceptions, or polarised emotions so as to reduce stress, resolve internal or external conflicts and assist in empowering and appreciating life.

The Demartini MethodⓇ is the culmination of over 46 years of human behavioural research and 28 years of actual practical application or facilitation extending to clients of all ages, cultures and educational or vocational backgrounds. There are approximately 4,000 Demartini MethodⓇ facilitators throughout the world. Hundreds of thousands of individuals have experienced facilitation of The Demartini MethodⓇ from most countries throughout the world.

The Demartini MethodⓇ, developed by Dr John Demartini, is a scientific methodology that balances perceptions and emotions. It is being used professionally by many psychologists, psychiatrists, social workers, educators, consultants, coaches, health professionals and business and world leaders throughout Planet Earth. The Demartini MethodⓇ is a tool with 1000 uses for empowering and inspiring life and its applications include reducing stress, resolving conflict and creating a new perspective and paradigm for a more fulfilling life.

As a professionally trained facilitator of The Demartini MethodⓇ, I would love to inform you in advance that I do not diagnose or treat disease, prescribe drugs, provide therapy or solve legal problems. Therefore, I am not here to take the place of your doctor, therapist, or lawyer. I am simply going to provide you a new and more profound way of perceiving your life. I will provide you with a leading-edge transformational methodology that can help you create significant changes in your perceptions and attitude toward, and actions in, life. I am also here to help you learn how to change any distressful situation you might encounter into a more fulfilling condition or experience.

The potential benefits and rewards of apply The Demartini MethodⓇ include:

Dissolving internal and/or external conflicts.Reducing specific stresses by transforming distresses into eustresses.Balancing out subjectively distorted perspectives, unrealistic expectations, imbalanced perceptions, or polarised emotions (anger, shame, guilt, pride, infatuation, resentment, fear, grief, mania, depression…).Discovering the hidden order in your apparent chaos.Reducing the As (anger and aggression), Bs (blame and betrayal), Cs (criticism and challenge), Ds (despair and depression) and Es (escape and exit) of negativity associated with unrealistic expectations on yourself or others, the world, or objects.
The potential drawbacks and risks of apply The Demartini MethodⓇ include:

Challenge and frustration undergoing sustained introspection (looking within), extrospection (looking outside of you), retrospection (looking into the past) and circumspection (all of the above).Temporary psychophysiological reactions due to confronting any distorted perspectives, unrealistic expectations, imbalanced perceptions, or polarised emotions including headaches, nausea, fatigue, spasms, cramps, mental fog.Challenge associated with realising how many distorted perspectives, unrealistic expectations, imbalanced perceptions, or polarised emotions are actually being harbored.Challenge of having and living with new outlooks or more balanced perspectives.Possible change in social friendships or associations due to new outlooks or more balanced perspectives.Potential shift in priorities.
By not applying The Demartini MethodⓇ a client could remain caught harbouring imbalance and clouded emotional states of mind, which could trap them in the burdens of the past or fantasies of the future which could also disempower them and hold them back from overall stability and life fulfilment.

Although many of the traditionally established or new alternative methods have demonstrated some merits and have their own rewards and risk many of them are based upon the animal model of psychology involving predator (perpetrator) - prey (innocent victim), which encourage a separation of cause and effect and perpetuate imbalance states of mind including fantasies, fears, pride, guilt/shame, blame, resentment, infatuation, grief… mono-polar addictions result in bipolar outcomes. The search for that which is unavailable (just (+) monopole) and the avoidance of that which is unavoidable (opposite (-) monopole) is the source of human ‘suffering’.

The Demartini MethodⓇ assists clients in breaking through their limiting habits of unfulfilling behaviour as behavioural therapists do. It alters maladaptive ways of perceiving and thinking as cognitive-behavioural therapists do. It dissolves conscious and unconscious conflicts and adverse childhood and adulthood experiences as psychodynamic therapists do. It transforms unwise ways of interacting with others as interpersonal therapists do. It helps people find their own solutions to life problems as person-centered therapists do.

The Demartini MethodⓇ is a set of systematic pre-determined series of questions directed toward the objective of bringing the individual to a state of full conscious awareness and a momentary state of equanimity, presence and certainty, and to their physical body a momentary feeling of gratitude and true appreciation. These questions will assist their client in neutralising their emotional charges and balancing their mental and physical reactions thereby helping them centre their mind and body, bringing wellness.

The individual will undergo a continuous thinking process and writing action repeated over a course of time that results in a resolution of dis-equilibrated perceptions, thereby assisting them in discovering the underlying order governing their apparent daily chaos.

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Why Some People Succeed & Others Don't?

One key contributing factor to your success is your level of discipline.

The problem though is that some days we have discipline and some days we just don't.

This blog post is going to be a short and sweet guide on how to develop and maintain consistently high levels of discipline in your life.

Ready?

Ready.

Every single human being (you & I included) is disciplined.

We are just disciplined to things that are truly important to us - our higher priorities.

And, we lack discipline towards those things that are not truly important to us - our lower priorities.

Does a Mother 'lack discipline' when her baby is in trouble?

Does she pull up youtube and tell herself that she's too lazy to save her baby from those 6 kid-nappers wearing balaclavas that have just broken into her house?

NO.

She acts.

Immediately.

Now I know that's a bit of an extreme example, but the same is true for everyday life:

We are ALL disciplined to complete tasks that are truly important to us.

The trap many people fall into is thinking something is important to them when it really isn't.

So, the question is less: "how can I become more disciplined?" (because you are already disciplined to your highest priorities).

And more: "how can I raise the importance of the task I want to do but am lacking discipline toward?"

Us, human beings, do not move a muscle without a motive.

So we need to start seeing how this task we want to do is actually truly (deep down) important to us.

This is how...

1. Take any task that you lack discipline towards (back-testing, building a trading plan, forecasting, reviewing your trades etc.)

2. Grab a pen and pad.

3. Answer the following question one hundred times...

How is doing the task you are 'lacking discipline' toward (back-testing, building a trading plan,...) a benefit and service to you?

(How is it a benefit to your health & physical body? Your wealth? Your family & relationships? Your social image? Your job/ business? Your mindset? And what is truly most important to you?)

The moment you truly see the connection in your mind of how the task you want to do is actually helping you excel in every area of life, you will not lack discipline toward it (because now it's an extremely important task).

Pat Bailouni

I am a mindset consultant (trained Demartini Method Facilitator), a financial market trader and a self-proclaimed dumpling enthusiast.

I use my understanding of human behaviour and psychology to help traders, poker players, entrepreneurs, athletes and highly motivated individuals identify and sharpen their edge in their respective fields.

I am currently available for 1 on 1 & 1 on many consulting. To discuss my services, please book a free 15-minute discovery call below (or email me here).

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Why Some People Hit Their Fitness Goals & Others Don't?

One key contributing factor to your health and fitness success is your level of discipline or 'stickability' to a certain diet and program.

The problem though is that some days we have discipline and some days we just don't.

This blog post is going to be a short and sweet guide on how to develop and maintain consistently high levels of discipline in your life.

Ready?

Ready.

Every single human being (you & I included) is disciplined.

We are just disciplined to things that are truly important to us - our higher priorities.

And, we lack discipline towards those things that are not truly important to us - our lower priorities.

Does a Mother 'lack discipline' when her baby is in trouble?

Does she pull up youtube and tell herself that she's too lazy to save her baby from those 6 kid-nappers wearing balaclavas that have just broken into her house?

NO.

She acts.

Immediately.

Now I know that's a bit of an extreme example, but the same is true for everyday life:

We are ALL disciplined to complete tasks that are truly important to us.

The trap many people fall into is thinking something is important to them when it really isn't.

So, the question is less: "how can I become more disciplined?" (because you are already disciplined to your highest priorities).

And more: "how can I raise the importance of the task I want to do but am lacking discipline toward?"

Us, human beings, do not move a muscle without a motive.

So we need to start seeing how this task we want to do is actually truly (deep down) important to us.

This is how...

1. Take any task that you lack discipline towards (going to the gym, stretching, meal prepping, cleaning your room, doing homework etc.)

2. Grab a pen and pad.

3. Answer the following question one hundred times...

How is doing the task you are 'lacking discipline' toward (going to the gym, meal prepping...) a benefit and service to you?

(How is it a benefit to your health & physical body? Your wealth? Your family & relationships? Your social image? Your job/ business? Your mindset? And what is truly most important to you?)

The moment you truly see the connection in your mind of how the task you want to do is actually helping you excel in every area of life, you will not lack discipline toward it (because now it's an extremely important task).

Pat Bailouni

I am a mindset consultant (trained Demartini Method Facilitator), a financial market trader and a self-proclaimed dumpling enthusiast.

I use my understanding of human behaviour and psychology to help traders, poker players, entrepreneurs, athletes and highly motivated individuals identify and sharpen their edge in their respective fields.

I am currently available for 1 on 1 & 1 on many consulting. To discuss my services, please book a free 15-minute discovery call below (or email me here).

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Rona's Back Baby

It goes by many names...

“COVID-19”

“COVID-21”

“Rona”

And my personal favourite: “China Virus”.

Whatever you call it.

This killer virus is back and badder than ever.

But

Is Rona inherently evil?

I don’t think so...

COVID could be perceived as the bloodsucker that:

Kills people.Strips people of their jobs/ income.Isolates people.
OR...

It could be perceived as an opportunity giver that:

Brings families closer together.Gives people time to master their skills.Gives people time to start that business, read that book, learn that new skill.Gives people time to think and to contemplate their life trajectory.Holds people accountable to be more independent with their income.Holds people accountable to improve their health.
One perspective will leave you angry and resentful.

The other will leave you grateful for the changing times.

Because as long as you compare your life to how you wish it was (no #covid)

You will never be able to appreciate (and take advantage) of the opportunities COVID has provided

Extract meaning from these times in your life.

What are the specific advantages you can draw from china virus and isolation in your life? How does it benefit what’s most important to you?

It’s never about what happens to you that matters, it’s about how you interpret what happens to you.

Pat Bailouni

I am a mindset consultant (trained Demartini Method Facilitator), a financial market trader and a self-proclaimed dumpling enthusiast.

I use my understanding of human behaviour and psychology to help traders, poker players, entrepreneurs, athletes and highly motivated individuals identify and sharpen their edge in their respective fields.

I am currently available for 1 on 1 & 1 on many consulting. To discuss my services, please book a free 15-minute discovery call below (or email me here).

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The One Thing Holding 95% Of Traders Back From Consistent Profits...

From an early age, we are taught to think that winning is 'good'. And losing is 'bad'.

When we won in sport it was 'good' we got rewarded, we got attention and recognition.

When we lost, it was 'bad luck', we got punished and reprimanded.

We are hired-wired to seek after the pleasure we have associated with winning and avoid the pain we have associated with losing.

Being in this dynamic of perceiving winning as 'good' & pleasurable and losing as 'bad' & painful is the single greatest thing that will stop you from achieving your trading success.

Here are a few reasons why:

1. When inevitable losses come around (based on probability) we will feel the 'sting' and the resentment towards the losses.

2. We fear missing out on (FOMO) what is 'good' as a trader so we jump the gun and get into trades too early.

3. Whenever we are trying to avoid the pain of losing and seek the pleasure of winning, we are NOT objectively trading our trading plan - we are being pulled by our emotions.

As a trader the wisest position you can be in is seeing losing as neutral & winning as neutral, putting you in the best possible position to just execute on your trading plan.

Ultimately, us taking a 'losing' trade from the perspective of the market is neutral. We may choose to label it 'negative' because it challenges our priorities or doesn't meet up to our expectations.

So, if we are labelling a neutral event 'negative' we must be conscious of the downsides of that event and unconscious of the 'upsides' of that event.

Same in reverse for winning.

It's very possible to change your perception of losing and winning - so you see them as neither bad nor good. Just neutral events. Putting yourself in the best possible position to just execute on your trading plan. I help clients do this every day and I can help you too.

There is, additionally, one quick fix you can add into your trading to help with your emotional response to losing trades...

Be mindful of your expectations before getting into a trade.

If your expectation going into a trade is that 'ThIs Is GoInG To bE a bIg WiNnEr' and the fantasy you set in your head of all the profit you're about to make is very pleasurable. Then if the trade is a loss, by contrast, you're going to be devastated.

It's much wiser to put a position on and 'observe' what the market is going to do next - with no expectations.

Pat Bailouni

I am a mindset consultant (trained Demartini Method Facilitator), a financial market trader and a self-proclaimed dumpling enthusiast.

I use my understanding of human behaviour and psychology to help traders, poker players, entrepreneurs, athletes and highly motivated individuals identify and sharpen their edge in their respective fields.

I am currently available for 1 on 1 & 1 on many consulting. To discuss my services, please book a free 15-minute discovery call below (or email me here).

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The One Thing Holding 95% Of Poker Players Back From Consistent Profits...

From an early age, we are taught to think that winning is 'good'. And losing is 'bad'.

When we won in sport it was 'good' we got rewarded, we got attention and recognition.

When we lost, it was 'bad luck', we got punished and reprimanded.

We are hired-wired to seek after the pleasure we have associated with winning and avoid the pain we have associated with losing.

Being in this dynamic of perceiving winning as 'good' & pleasurable and losing as 'bad' & painful is the single greatest thing that will stop you from achieving your poker success.

Here are a few reasons why:

1. When inevitable losses come around (based on probability) we will feel the 'sting' and the resentment towards the losses.

2. We fear missing out on (FOMO) what is 'good' as a poker player so we jump the gun and make irrational decisions.

3. Whenever we are trying to avoid the pain of losing and seek the pleasure of winning, we are NOT objectively playing according to our plan and ranges - we are being pulled by our emotions.

As a poker player, the wisest position you can be in is seeing losing as neutral & winning as neutral, putting you in the best possible position to just execute on your plan.

Ultimately, us 'losing' a hand from the perspective of the whole table is neutral. We may choose to label it 'negative' because it challenges our priorities or doesn't meet up to our expectations.

So, if we are labelling a neutral event 'negative' we must be conscious of the downsides of that event and unconscious of the 'upsides' of that event.

Same in reverse for winning.

It's very possible to change your perception of losing and winning - so you see them as neither bad nor good. Just neutral events. Putting yourself in the best possible position to just execute on your plan. I help clients do this every day and I can help you too.

There is, additionally, one quick fix you can add into your poker games to instantly help with your emotional response to losing hands...

Be mindful of your expectations before getting into a hand.

If your expectation going into a hand are that 'ThIs Is GoInG To bE a bIg WiNnEr' and the fantasy you set in your head of all the profit you're about to make is very pleasurable. Then if the hand is a loss, by contrast, you're going to be devastated.

It's much wiser to put a bet on and 'observe' what the outcome is going to be - with no expectations.

Pat Bailouni

I am a mindset consultant (trained Demartini Method Facilitator), a financial market trader and a self-proclaimed dumpling enthusiast.

I use my understanding of human behaviour and psychology to help traders, poker players, entrepreneurs, athletes and highly motivated individuals identify and sharpen their edge in their respective fields.

I am currently available for 1 on 1 & 1 on many consulting. To discuss my services, please book a free 15-minute discovery call below (or email me here).

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It's what we know for sure (that just
ain't so) that gets us into trouble...

There's an adage about a family at Thanksgiving that goes along the lines of:

A daughter asked her mother why she cuts the turkey in half before cooking it in the oven.

The mother was a little bit startled by the question and said "I'm not sure, that's just what my mother did, so I did the same".

So, the daughter went and asked the Grandmother why she did it?

And the Grandmother gave the exact same answer as the Mother: "I did it just because that's what my Mother did".

So, the daughter went to the Great-Grandmother and asked her why she cut the turkey in half before cooking it.

And her response was: "My oven was too small to put the whole turkey in".

Sometimes we blindly do things because we assume it is the right thing to do - without ever questioning why we do it.

99.99% of the time we are reacting to our environment based on beliefs and programming that we aren't even aware of.

Some beliefs like 'run when a train/ car is about to hit me' may be quite useful in life.

But there may be some deep-seated beliefs we hold about certain people, ourselves, money etc. that may not necessarily be all that useful (or even true) and we continue to live by these beliefs without ever putting them under the microscope.

There are some great questions you can ask yourself to help put your thought processes/ beliefs under the microscope and even uncover some things you weren't even aware of 👇

What exactly are you labelling good and bad?What made you believe that?Who made you believe that?When did you begin to believe that?How did you know to believe that specifically?Why do you believe that?How does this belief help and hinder you?Are there universal (objective) goods and bads?If there are, who originated them?
It's food for thought.

Pat Bailouni

I am a mindset consultant (trained Demartini Method Facilitator), a financial market trader and a self-proclaimed dumpling enthusiast.

I use my understanding of human behaviour and psychology to help traders, poker players, entrepreneurs, athletes and highly motivated individuals identify and sharpen their edge in their respective fields.

I am currently available for 1 on 1 & 1 on many consulting. To discuss my services, please book a free 15-minute discovery call below (or email me here).

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How You Can Stop Your Self-Sabotaging Behaviour Instantly...

Believe it or not, self-sabotage doesn’t actually exist...

Every human being makes decisions based on what they perceive will give them the greatest advantage in that particular moment (the advantages may be unconscious).

We only label it ‘self-sabotage’ when we compare what happened to a fantasy of what we wished had happened.

Let me give you a quick example:

I worked with a trading client who thought he was ‘self-sabotaging'.

After asking a few good questions we actually identified that he was acting exactly how he was programmed to act.

He was making decisions according to an unconscious set of beliefs he had injecting from his father:

“To make money you have to work long & hard hours”.

Now when he would make ‘easy' money in the markets from his living room, there was an internal conflict.

As a result, at times he would act to ensure he wasn't profitable ('self-sabotage') to be congruent with the belief he injected from his father.

And then was beating himself up (and labelling himself 'self-sabotaging') when he later compared his actions to what he wished he was doing in the markets (making 'easy' money).

When he came to realise that what he initially labelled ‘self-sabotage’ was actually just him acting and making decisions according to his belief-systems and programming, there was a true realisation.

If you’re labelling yourself ‘self-sabotaging’, it’s wise to follow the following steps:

1. Identify the specific trait, action or inaction you are doing (or not doing) that you are labelling ‘self-sabotage’.

2. Identify the advantages to you doing the trait, action, or inaction identified above. What benefits or services are you getting from doing it? (You wouldn't be doing it if there weren't unconscious advantages there).

3. Keep looking for advantages until you are certain you understand your motive behind the ‘self-sabotaging’ behaviour. Hold yourself accountable.

This will give you a level of awareness and understanding about why you’re doing certain actions. A lot of the time this level of awareness also allows you to free yourself from repeating the 'self-sabotaging' cycle.

Pat Bailouni

I am a mindset consultant (trained Demartini Method Facilitator), a financial market trader and a self-proclaimed dumpling enthusiast.

I use my understanding of human behaviour and psychology to help traders, poker players, entrepreneurs, athletes and highly motivated individuals identify and sharpen their edge in their respective fields.

I am currently available for 1 on 1 & 1 on many consulting. To discuss my services, please book a free 15-minute discovery call below (or email me here).

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Why 99% Of People Don't Ever Accomplish Their Goals.

The majority of people don't ever achieve their 'goals' because they aren't even pursuing real goals - they're chasing fairy-dust (fantasies).

A fantasy is anything you perceive to have an 'all positive' outcome sometime in the future. Understanding that every event has two sides to it, achieving an 'all positive' outcome is not actually possible.

A real goal (an objective) is balanced. You perceive benefits from accomplishing it but you are also equally aware of the challenges & risks it will present.

Think about something you wanted 1 year ago and finally accomplished.

Maybe it was a new job, or a fresh relationship, perhaps it was a certain amount of money.

A year ago you thought achieving this thing would be the solution to all your problems

But now that you have it, you still have problems, right? You still aren’t fulfilled? Maybe you even feel a little bit betrayed.

Welcome to the dis-heartened world of chasing fantasies.

You accomplished the thing you wanted to accomplish and you were disappointed because the reality of the situation (which is 2-sided - benefits & drawbacks) didn’t meet up to the fantasy (which is 1-sided - 'all positive') you had set in your mind.

Maybe you 10x your business - but now realised you have additional stresses with having to hire and expand.

Maybe you secured that relationship - but now you realise your partner doesn't even put the damn toilet seat down.

Maybe you 10x your income - but now realise that people come up to you with money in their eyes

People end up feeling betrayed because reality doesn't meet up to their expectations (fantasies).

It’s much wiser to follow this 3-step formula to ensure you're setting real goals (objectives):

1. Identify what it is you would love to accomplish.
2. Identify all the challenges, risks, drawbacks and disadvantages of having that particular goal (until the - = +).
3. Take each of the drawbacks that you think will be damaging and identify 3x things to lower the probability of them happening & 3x things to lower the impact if they do happen.

If you set real goals (objectives) a few things will happen:

1. You will become more grateful for your current reality (because now you aren't comparing your life to an 'all positive' fantasy).

2. Any fears, anxieties or self-doubt will go away because now you aren't self-minimising to an 'all positive' fantasy.

3. You will be more likely to achieve the objective because you have contingencies planned.

4. If the drawbacks do happen, you will be well prepared with contingencies to deal with them - as opposed, to being smacked in hindsight (and feeling betrayed).

A master, to the best of their abilities, is aware of the risks, drawbacks, challenges of what they are pursuing and to the best of their ability has mitigated the risks with contingencies.

Now, you won’t be able to anticipate every single drawback but you'll get more than you will without planning.

Value yourself and your goals enough to take the time it takes to do this exercise, it may just be the reason why you accomplish your goals.

Pat Bailouni

I am a mindset consultant (trained Demartini Method Facilitator), a financial market trader and a self-proclaimed dumpling enthusiast.

I use my understanding of human behaviour and psychology to help traders, poker players, entrepreneurs, athletes and highly motivated individuals identify and sharpen their edge in their respective fields.

I am currently available for 1 on 1 & 1 on many consulting. To discuss my services, please book a free 15-minute discovery call below (or email me here).

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How Emotions Destroy Your Trading.

Please note: this blog post has been simplified and analogised for ease of reading and times-sake.

Every human has two distinct parts to their psychology.

1. A lower-minded animal that wants to seek pleasure and avoid pain:
This part of the brain is necessary for survival.This is the most primitive part of the brain and activates the emotion centre - your amygdala.
2. A higher-minded angel that is responsible for self-governance, strategic thought and execution.
This part of the brain is necessary for thrival.This is the most advanced part of the brain and activates the prefrontal cortex.
Whenever we perceive more challenge than support (or more support than challenge) in our environment we activate our animal.

If we perceive more challenge than support we have an impulse away from the ‘painful challenge’.

If we perceive more support than challenge we have an instinct towards the ‘pleasurable support’.

Whenever we perceive an equal amount of challenge and support (a perfect 1:1 balance) we activate our higher-minded angel.

Because we aren’t trying to seek or avoid anything, we are now present, certain, grounded and grateful.

Now, how does this affect trading?

Well, if we're emotional (imbalanced perception) we are re-acting to the markets.

We have a fear of losing and are trying to avoid losing (which is silly when we’re playing probabilities).

We have a fantasy of winning and trying to seek after winning (which is silly when we’re playing probabilities).

We have a fear of missing out (FOMO) on the all pleasurable fantasy of winning.

And when we learn to balance our perception and integrate the opposites in our environment, we can instantly transcend the fear and greed dynamic.

And when we are balanced, we are present, certain, grounded and grateful and in the best and most objective position to now just act according to our trading plan.

Emotions affect our trading because they pull us like puppet strings - making us react irrationally out of fear and greed.

Being balanced and grounded allows us to transcend the judgements and simply act, according to our plan.

Pat Bailouni

I am a mindset consultant (trained Demartini Method Facilitator), a financial market trader and a self-proclaimed dumpling enthusiast.

I use my understanding of human behaviour and psychology to help traders, poker players, entrepreneurs, athletes and highly motivated individuals identify and sharpen their edge in their respective fields.

I am currently available for 1 on 1 & 1 on many consulting. To discuss my services, please book a free 15-minute discovery call below (or email me here).

© Bailouni Enterprises. All rights reserved.

How Emotions Can Destroy Your Poker.

“The most important of these skills, and power’s crucial foundation is the ability to master your emotions. An emotional response to a situation is the single greatest barrier to power, a mistake that will cost you a lot more than any temporary satisfaction you might gain by expressing your feelings.”
- Robert Greene

Every poker player knows that some days can be very stressful. This article is a practical guide on how you can overcome the stress, anger and other damaging emotions that may hold you back from playing your best poker.

Anger (and a lot of our emotions) come from holding onto unrealistic expectations.

Let’s say you had an expectation on yourself that you had to consecutively win your poker sessions. With this type of expectation on yourself, you're assuming that consecutively winning is going to bring you more advantages than consecutively losing.

With the above expectation, you will also fear consecutively losing because you are assuming that consecutively losing will bring you more disadvantages than consecutively winning.

Now, for whatever reason, let's say you start consecutively losing. If you're holding onto the expectation that you should be consecutively winning you will be angry & stressed because you perceive yourself 'missing out' on your positive expectations.

The anger and resentment towards consecutively losing will only perpetuate poor decision making and, ultimately, the losing of more hands.

It’s incredibly wise to be adaptable in your perceptions at this point as a way to get back to making rational decisions.

What if I were to show you that there are two sides to everything and that consecutively losing has benefits.

For example:

When I consecutively lose:
I have a greater drive and motivation to continue studying my poker.I extract lessons and learnings from my losses which ultimately help me create a better system.I reach out to my coach/ other poker players to learn from them.I am more grounded and have greater accountability to stick to my game plan and ranges.Ultimately, I may be 'losing' hands and money but I am 'gaining' lessons, education, accountability, and a drive.
And, there are two sides to consecutively winning. Consecutively winning has drawbacks.

For example:

When I consecutively win:
I go into a state of pride and think I ‘know it’ and act invincible at the table.I make silly ‘errors’ or ‘bad’ bets.I have less of a drive to continue learning and refining my poker plan.I stunt my growth because I think I 'know it'.Ultimately, you may be 'gaining' money but you are also simultaneously 'missing out' on the things that are essential for your growth (lessons, accountability, coaching etc).
Find specific examples of the benefits of losing & drawbacks of winning for your own unique situation.

In summary:

If you're angry, this means you are aware of the disadvantages of consecutively losing and un-aware of the advantages of consecutively losing - make yourself aware of the benefits and advantages of losing. I assure you they will be there.

In this dynamic, you are also comparing your current reality to a fantasy (expectation), assuming that if you were consecutively winning life would be better off. So make yourself aware of the disadvantages of your positive expectations (fantasy) of consecutively winning.

The moment you get grounded and see the advantages of your current reality (losing) and the disadvantages of your positive expectations (winning) you will shed the anger and get grateful for what has happened, as it is. In this state, you will be in the best possible position to just execute, objectively, at the table according to your plan - and make the most money possible.

Pat Bailouni

I am a mindset consultant (trained Demartini Method Facilitator), a financial market trader and a self-proclaimed dumpling enthusiast.

I use my understanding of human behaviour and psychology to help traders, poker players, entrepreneurs, athletes and highly motivated individuals identify and sharpen their edge in their respective fields.

I am currently available for 1 on 1 & 1 on many consulting. To discuss my services, please book a free 15-minute discovery call below (or email me here).

© Bailouni Enterprises. All rights reserved.

How To Instantly Stop Getting Angry In The Markets.

“The most important of these skills, and power’s crucial foundation is the ability to master your emotions. An emotional response to a situation is the single greatest barrier to power, a mistake that will cost you a lot more than any temporary satisfaction you might gain by expressing your feelings.”
- Robert Greene

Every trader knows that some days can be very stressful. This article is a practical guide on how you can overcome the stress, anger and damaging emotions that may hold you back from trading at your best.

Anger (and a lot of our emotions) come from holding onto unrealistic expectations.

Let’s say you had an expectation on yourself that you had to consecutively win with your trades. With this type of expectation on yourself, you're assuming that consecutively winning is going to bring you more advantages than consecutively losing.

With the above expectation, you will also fear consecutively losing because you are assuming that consecutively losing will bring you more disadvantages than consecutively winning.

Now, for whatever reason, let's say you start consecutively losing (usually due to probabilities). If you're holding onto the expectation that you should be consecutively winning you will be angry & stressed because you perceive yourself 'missing out' on your positive expectations.

The anger and resentment towards consecutively losing will only perpetuate the poor decision making (revenge trading etc.) and, ultimately, the losing of more trades.

It’s incredibly wise to be adaptable in your perceptions at this point as a way to get back to making rational decisions.

What if I were to show you that there are two sides to everything and that consecutively losing has benefits.

For example:

When I consecutively lose:
I have a greater drive and motivation to continue studying the markets.I extract lessons and learnings from my losses which ultimately help me create a better system.I reach out to my coach/ other traders to learn from them.I am more grounded and have greater accountability to stick to my trading plan and high probability set-ups.Ultimately, I may be 'losing' money but I am 'gaining' lessons, education, accountability, and a drive.
And, there are two sides to consecutively winning. Consecutively winning has drawbacks.

For example:

When I consecutively win:
I go into a state of pride and think I ‘know it’ and act invincible in the markets (which doesn't take too long to get humbled by the markets).I make silly ‘errors’ or take low probability trades.I have less of a drive to continue learning and refining my trading plan and setups.I stunt my growth because I think I 'know it'.Ultimately, you may be 'gaining' money but you are also simultaneously 'missing out' on the things that are essential for your growth (lessons, accountability, coaching etc).
Find specific examples of the benefits of losing & drawbacks of winning for your own unique situation.

In summary:

If you're angry, this means you are aware of the disadvantages of consecutively losing and un-aware of the advantages of consecutively losing - make yourself aware of the benefits and advantages of losing. I assure you they will be there.

In this dynamic, you are also comparing your current reality to a fantasy (expectation), assuming that if you were consecutively winning life would be better off. So make yourself aware of the disadvantages of your positive expectations (fantasy) of consecutively winning.

The moment you get grounded and see the advantages of your current reality (losing) and the disadvantages of your positive expectations (winning) you will shed the anger and get grateful for what has happened, as it is. In this state, you will be in the best possible position to just execute, objectively, in the markets according to your plan - and make the most money possible.

Pat Bailouni

I am a mindset consultant (trained Demartini Method Facilitator), a financial market trader and a self-proclaimed dumpling enthusiast.

I use my understanding of human behaviour and psychology to help traders, poker players, entrepreneurs, athletes and highly motivated individuals identify and sharpen their edge in their respective fields.

I am currently available for 1 on 1 & 1 on many consulting. To discuss my services, please book a free 15-minute discovery call below (or email me here).

© Bailouni Enterprises. All rights reserved.

The 1 thing you can do right now to level-up your trading

In this article you will learn two powerful questions you can ask yourself to see a complete transformation in your trading.

I looked back on what (so far) has been a 5-year trading journey. I was nicely surprised to find a common thread of what happened right before each of the times I made the biggest progressions in my trading.

It was very obvious to me that the moments I progressed most in my trading were immediately after drawdowns.

But, the key thing I want you to understand here is why?

According to a simple law in human behaviour, whenever we get challenged we go back to our highest priorities (we go back to what is most important to us).

Following drawdown periods - which I perceived as challenging - I would lean out my trading and stick to doing only the highest priority things and taking the highest priority setups.

Ultimately, I would do this by asking two very simple questions:

1. What is working in my trading (with my processes and setups) & how can I do more of it?

2. What is not working in my trading (with my processes and setups) & how can I do these things less?

Now, the thing is you don’t need to go through a drawdown to take your trading to the next level. You can just use the two questions above to identify the highest priorities in your trading.

Get a piece of paper, open up your trading journal and ask the two questions:

1. What is working in my trading (with my processes and setups) & how can I do more of it?

2. What is not working in my trading (with my processes and setups) & how can I do these things less?

I assure you, if you do it thoroughly, you will take your trading to the next level.

Pat Bailouni

I am a mindset consultant (trained Demartini Method Facilitator), a financial market trader and a self-proclaimed dumpling enthusiast.

I use my understanding of human behaviour and psychology to help traders, poker players, entrepreneurs, athletes and highly motivated individuals identify and sharpen their edge in their respective fields.

I am currently available for 1 on 1 & 1 on many consulting. To discuss my services, please book a free 15-minute discovery call below (or email me here).

© Bailouni Enterprises. All rights reserved.

© Bailouni Enterprises. All rights reserved.